Power of the Restoration: A Firm Foundation of Faith, by Nate Richardson 2017

Power of the Restoration: A Firm Foundation of Faith, by Nate Richardson 2017

The Devil is launching a powerful and relentless attack against us, more so than ever before. Though many physical dangers and hardships of life have subsided, the spiritual ones have increased 100 fold.  I believe God’s counter attack in this war of words and opinions is in declaring truth more clearly and powerfully than ever before. When The Devil stands up to fight against God with his powerful weaponry, GOD WILL FIGHT BACK, and WIN EVERY TIME.

Because Jesus Christ the Son of God restored his Church to Joseph Smith in 1820, we are now living in “The dispensation of the fullness of times” (D&C 128:18,20; 112:30-31; 138:48; 124:41; 121:31; 27:13 Eph. 1:10; ) wherein things are to be revealed which have been kept hidden from the foundation of the earth. If you think Mormonism has merely the same run of the mill talking points to offer humanity as other contemporary Christian groups, or just more clever thinking, this letter will show you that such is not the case, and that Mormonism has a more holistic answer to life’s questions, and a more glorious hope for the future of mankind, including more compassion and joy than is traditionally allowed among “Christian” groups for those who believe differently. It is a faith of angels, prophets, visions, and God speaking anew from the heavens to the earth as a whole in these our times, to reveal afresh the doctrine of Christ. These things offer not only a brighter future, but a more peaceful present. (See D&C 59:23; Moses 6;59)”

I do not call for a following nor do I suggest inordinate last days preparations, gathering locations, etc. Studies of dreams or visions of lay members of the church is dangerous and isn’t the focus here. Such if tolerated at all is to be considered fictional, and only for imaginative exploration which can at times be fruitful. These can have deeper meaning for those to whom they are given. Non-fiction has its proper place in life. Members may have dreams etc. helpful for them but such are generally not to be made public and they never represent Church doctrine.

What the current leaders of the Church declare overrides speculations of past statements. Interpreting doctrine is to be kept within the bounds the Lord has set. The Standard Works and words of the living First Presidency and Quorum of the 12 Apostles are what constitute church doctrine. Living Apostles help interpret the Standard Works lest any of us “look beyond the mark”. Apostasy can be found in both far left and far right ideologies, as well as in between. I denounce any group which actively seeks to change church doctrine or policies.

I witness that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is the one true Church of Jesus Christ in these latter days. Other churches contribute to God’s work, but the “LDS Church” is the only organization vested with the authority of God to lead the work of salvation in these the latter and last days. Only those authorized to preach the gospel represent the church, and I am not so authorized. When dealing with religious topics, focuses on the teachings of the prophets both ancient and modern.

I feel to say like Joseph Smith once did, “if my life is of no value to my friends, it is of none to myself”.  Foremost I am your friend, and if disagreements are between us, let us refocus on the overall goodness of humanity, and allow friendship to overcome disagreement, for Gods sake. We want safety for all persons, and we want all to believe and worship as they wish in peace.

Face to Face with Elder Oaks and Elder Ballard, November 2017: Notes by Nate Richardson

Face to Face with Elder Oaks and Elder Ballard, November 2017: Notes by Nate Richardson

-*My notes here do not represent the complete ideas expressed in this broadcast, but points I’ve considered most pertinent. Though incomplete, I’ve tried to be fair in this report.

-This is to a large audience of varying maturities and is not an attempt at complete answers to all levels on these issues.

-Q: Why no answer to know and believe teachings of the church when I’ve prayed to know and have no answer?

A: D&C 88 The answer comes in the Lord’s time. Don’t be frustrated when it doesn’t come the first time or first year, it comes line upon line, and we need a quiet place, we aren’t good at listening sometimes being too busy with technology.

-Q: How stand up for my standards without defending others with my views?

A: Keep a smile on your face. This is a glorious message, be yourself, people want to know you. Don’t be stoic in the presentation. This makes a connection between you two, they’ll ask more and more as time goes on. The scripture says to do this in meekness and mildness, we don’t pound it in. Don’t say “it’s this way weather you believe it or not.” When saying why you don’t drink alcohol or something don’t imply that it’s wrong, but say something like “it’s wrong for me because of covenants I’ve made.” Then you don’t send them on a guilt trip.

-Q: How discern between the spirit and my feelings?

A: This is a lifelong struggle. Impressions to do things I don’t want to do are probably more valid than impressions to do things I want to do anyway. We all have the spirit of Christ. You have to be sure you’re living right, straightening out anything that’s not the way you want it to be. If the prompting is contrary to Gods commands and the councils of the church you know it’s not from the right source. Someone told Elder Oaks his parents got revelation they don’t need to pay tithing or go to church anymore. Elder Oaks said, “I don’t question your parents’ revelation, they just got it from the wrong source!”

-Q: How show love to homosexuals despite our different beliefs?

A: One with same sex attraction in the church said “I’m not going to let me sexuality get in the way of my spirituality.” In the church we make covenants, and we strive to keep them. There is a place for all Gods children no matter their circumstances, the church is a refuge. Ultimately there are covenants that come into the picture and all of us have to make that decision in our lives of participating in those.  Those who try to keep their covenants will receive all of Gods blessings. Bearing each others burdens and loving each other despite all our differences is Christ’s law. Be careful not to label ourselves and others, the most important label we all have is “I am a child of God” We should not label ourselves as “anti this or that or this or that”. We all have problems and burdens we are wrestling with.

-Q: Struggles with anxiety and OCD, constantly struggling with thoughts:

A: Anxiety isn’t a terrible thing so long as we keep it in balance. Some need professional help from experts who’ve studied this thoroughly. Get council from people who love you and church leaders. All of us have some anxiety, a minority of us have disabling anxiety. In law school Elder Oaks had extreme anxiety. Anxiety can be a common stage of life you can get through. The Atonement can help us through these things. Even in old age anxiety is a part of life.

-Q: How do we balance worldly life and spiritual life?

A:  These are most common questions, everyone has to balance. All circumstances are different, this is put back on the individual. However the command to rest on the Sabbath is a good balance. Those who keep the Sabbath day have a build in heavenly balance that helps them. Every day is a spiritual day, starting with prayer in the morning. We go into a temporal world. Temporal and spiritual work together don’t try to separate it; nurture the temporal things with spiritual things. You can’t balance on a daily basis, thinking you’ll give certain percentages of your day to certain things. The Ensign is a good way to keep balanced. This helps us give sufficient attention to the scriptures and the teachings of the modern prophets.

-Q: How can you know the church is true?

A: Study the life of Jesus Christ, then let your faith lead you to find where the truth, covenants, commandments, ordinances of salvation are in the world. Then listen to those who know about the restoration. The story of the restoration is one of the most exciting glorious and true stories in the whole world. The Book of Mormon is the evidence to the world that our message is true. They find answers to life’s questions in that book, who am I, what is my purpose, why am I here, where am I going. These answers are all found in the restoration of the gospel.

-Q: For those who struggle with pornography and keep falling what can be done to overcome this? What if someone you’re dating is struggling with pornography?

A: 5 generations ago when we grew up we didn’t encounter this. Each generation has it’s unique problems. This is a major problem today for young people and adults. The Lord has given us principles which when applied can keep us away from this, and even rescue us when we fall to it or when we become addicted to it. Anyone considering marriage deserves complete transparency with the intended spouse, see where their heart is and what they are doing to try and become a saint of Jesus Christ. Don’t ask these questions when you first meet someone. This is a new drug. Don’t demonize those addicted to pornography. Boyfriends and girlfriends are not responsible to save each other from sin, only the Lord has that role. Only you can decide whether to continue the relationship. If you continue in a relationship with someone involved with pornography, steer them to the Lord for help, to council with church leaders parents and professionals. The pornography side is the devil’s side of the line, he is the author of pornography. Take hold of this and don’t cross the line; there is no magic answer but the answer is get over it, and have more and more of the doctrine of the Savior in your lives.  Calling upon the Lord will give you strength to confront every mortal weakness or temptation.

-Q: For people doubting with faith when finding conflict in church history etc?

A: There is a difference between questions and doubts. We encourage questions which lead to knowledge, but doubt is ambiguous word; doubt is defined as being accompanied by distrust, rejection of something. The scriptures condemn that. The Savior said “oh thou of little faith wherefore didst thou doubt?” and “doubt not but be believing” and “doubt not fear not”. Doubt is a confusing word, but we do encourage questions, sincere desire to know. Some say the church hid that there are different versions of the first vision, this is not true, in 1970 James Allen made an article for church magazines explaining this, the truth is that people don’t go back and research things; there has been no attempt in any way of any of us trying to hide these things. Now the Joseph Smith papers are coming out to help too. The church is as transparent as they know how to be in telling the truth, they have to do this, that is the Lord’s way. If you don’t have the answers to all the questions, you at least can know that Joseph Smith was a prophet of the restoration, that can get you through till you figure everything else out.

-Q: Advice for a recent convert whom is the only member of the church in their family?

A: Get to know the members, ask them your questions, if they don’t know the answers ask church leaders. Enjoy being a part of this church. Have holy habits (everyone should have these, ie go to church read scriptures etc.), and righteous routines (personal according to the needs and background of a convert. You can know what kind of temptations you need to avoid.).

-Q: Do you get revelation on who to marry or just make a choice? How do you know when you found the right one to marry?

A: Put your cell phones away and all technology, and talk to each other face to face.  You have yourselves in cocoons with this, you’re not being normal people! You can look at someone once and be very impressed with them, desiring to marry them; though it may take you a while to persuade them. Looking at each other in the eyes is how this can happen. Get to know each other. A whole bunch of you sit together in a group and are on phones rather than looking and talking to each other. I hope our voices will haunt you now. You need marriage and children in part so you can have people to take care of you when you are old. If you just hang out in groups of people you won’t get a wife, you need to pair off and talk. Don’t ask a girl on a date via a text message, that’s so inappropriate. Elder Bruce R McConkie is a well-loved apostle, a great authority on church doctrine. He said marrying the right person in the right place is the most important thing in mortality. We learn how to heed God’s word, but we also learn to exercise our agency, things we do ourselves; finding the right balance between agency and inspiration is what we do in mortality. He continues to say in his 1974 BYU address “Agency or inspiration, which?”: joy satisfaction and peace in this life as well as eternal reward come as we balance agency and inspiration. Many say they need to fast and get a manifestation about this from God; never did I (Elder McConkie) ask God on the matter, it never occurred to him, he found the girl he wanted, it seemed 100%, so I went ahead, not waiting around for the Lord to reveal it to me. A more perfect thing to do would be to council with God about this being the right choice. So McConkie listened to the feeling in his heart, used his judgement and wisdom and agency, not waiting around.

-Q: How can a return missionary feel the spirit and see the miracles he saw on his mission?

A: Beware seeing a mission as so different as life. Get to know God on your mission. Keep doing some of the things that built your testimony when you were serving your mission the rest of your life. Keep regular scripture study, service to others, etc. It’s simple: keep the same habits. Get up on time. Get out. Move around. There is a different balance post mission, you make your own rules once off of a mission, but keep doing things like you did on the mission. Don’t overdo the adjustment of post mission life so much that you stop the good habits; and don’t wait for someone to assign you a companion, go find one.

-Q: How reactivate loved ones, like if your parents are inactive?

A: Don’t preach to them just love them. Share with them as appropriate some of your life’s experiences, honor them, seek their council, the Lord will ultimately reach down and perhaps bring about what we pray for. Don’t overreact, be loving gentle kind prayerful. We’ll then find teaching opportunities, and others who will help step in to get the job done. Kindness love and patience are the most fundamental things to pursue in these cases. Elder Oaks counseled a sister whose husband would come to church but not be baptized or care about the gospel, that she would just be the best wife she could. In this case, the she tried extra hard to be kind, and a month later he was baptized.

-Q: Are women expected to have children and a career? Family Proclamation conflicting current instruction for women to get education?

A: The question is not between children and career, it’s about timing. A degree for a woman can be a blessing from the Lord to supply if the father dies. Other circumstances may work out differently. Seek the inspiration of the Lord.

-Q: How deal with a career requiring lots of work on Sundays?

A: Some careers require this. This is sometimes out of our control, but we should do all we can to at least get to a sacrament meeting every month, in my experience most employers would accommodate this. We all need to find some way to partake of the sacrament for sure as often as we can, it’s a blessing to do it every week. The sacrament is the Lord’s 1 commanded meeting that we are to attend. We’ve tried to reestablish in our minds that that 1 hour and 10 minutes belongs to the Lord; we teach and testify of Christ; we ask the blessing and passing of the sacrament be a sacred moment in all the lives of the church; we pause and put away anything that would keep us from focusing on the Savior, this helps us get strength to face another week. As much as possible, on Sabbath day find ourselves at sacrament meeting, and at our other meetings if we have time to do all that. Elder Oaks often worked on Sunday at a radio station, it requiring him to work Sundays when he was young. His mother critiqued him for studying on Sundays to keep up in school, his father having had said something like “I can do more in 6 days than 7 if I rest on the 7th.” I did this and found I can get more done resting the 7th day than working the 7th day. You’ll get farther if you do it the Lord’s way because the owner’s manual of who made us says to rest the 7th day.

-Q: I’ve been trying to overcome sins and can’t, I can confess easily, but I still can’t overcome it. What is to be done?

A: Keep reminding yourselves who we are in this spiritual journey, that we are children of Father and Mother in heaven; coming to earth is essential to our progression. It’s a battle to keep feeding the spirit in the process and keep it alive and well as we do the physical. Do we pull ourselves up to a spiritual table 3 times a day like the physical health table? If we did that, we might have the spiritual strength we need. Nourish your spiritual side to be ultimately in command of the physical. Repentance is possible, forgiveness is certain, when we are forgiven, though our sins be as scarlet, that color will be washed away, and the Lord will remember them no more, and thus we should not dwell on these things, and get on with our lives. Approach the sacrament with a contrite heart, and this is the role it can play.



Studio C / Divine Comedy – Nate Richardson’s Favorites

Studio C / Divine Comedy – Nate Richardson’s Favorites

Manly – effeminate Provo boys


Wedding Roar


Ditching Darby


Fail – testing center


Provo, UT Girls




Mormon Misunderstanding – not strange yet strange


I’m Batman – failing sidekick disguises


The Revenant: Back from the dead – fight with she bear, swam back up stream to say goodbye


Life Lessons from Grandma:


Love Loves Love – Stacey music video reject


Scarry story of the future


The Phantom of the Opera’s girl problems


Hazel: most annoying coworker


Bad roommate Agatha – dark poetry


ER – Vet Division


Dubstep DJ


The Origins of Country Music


French Revolution Manhunt


Disgruntled Commoners


Attila the Hun’s Deathbed


Asking for her dad’s permission


A Kindergarden fight for love


Baskins Robins love confession – love too fast


Kids Should Love Money (featuring Stars)


Caught in the crosshairs – hobo enters relationship – meet my parents – raise these kids


Fastest Newscast Ever


The Janitor: Library Love


Mr. Eckelstone Teaches Drivers Ed


Downtown Drama – priorities – dinner moved back hour smashes cup


Flirting Academy


Flirting Academy Graduation


The Mad Scientist Ruins Valentine’s Day


The Mad Scientist Ruins Sports


The Mad Scientist Creates Junior High School


Table for one


Pokemon Go ruined my wedding


Love from afar


Mr. Eckelstone’s Drivers Ed: Winter Edition


Worst Psychiatrist Ever


Worst Waiter Ever


Worst Teacher Ever


Worst Lawyer Ever


Worst Cop Ever


Worst Plumber Ever


Studio C Grinch


Watch This! Ultimate Skate Park Disaster with Shonduras


Jason Bourne Resurfaces in 2016


Awkward Moment With Puritan Roommate


Strangest Sound on a Date


The Guest List of His Royal Majesty


The art of the Setup


Car Lip Sync Battle


Typical Country Song


Top Crime Scene Photographer


Presidential Fail


Shalow Mal – uglier the better –


Courting Ritual – humans in their natural habitat


Life Alert Dating


Bad Boy Rap – second thought I want a good boy


Santa’s Love Languages


Santa’s Worst Present Ever


Santa’s Elves go on Strike


Edgar Allan Poe’s The Raven, Christmas Edition


ESPN Matt Center, Part 2


Cheer Up Mix Up – giving a puppy


Crisis at the Confessional


Fugative Man Hunt – exhaustive investigation


Advent Calendar Temptation


Pic or it didn’t happen


Touch Up – hikers get overhaul


Gandalf Intervention


The Center for People That YouTube Made Infamous


Facebook friends song


The Entertainment 2: Assisted Living Community


How to be a famous reality star


The Most Organic Vlog: Christmas Hacks


The Most Organic Vlog: Diet Tips


The Most Organic Vlog: Parenting Tips


Cutting out holidays


Hibiscus Bisque


What’s in a name


Generation Gap – baby Spencer roommate


Baby Spencer goes to work


A Mother’s overbearing Love


You Deserve a Better You – free yourself from goals


Gift exchange


Cupcake Wars Interrupted by Jealous Husband – gender roles


Boy Band Breakup


Once Upon a Time


Christmas Shopping by the 4 Wise Men


The Queen on Twitter


Grandma Tildy


Playing Devil’s Advocate – oil tycoons using souls as currency


A Germaphobe’s Nightmare


Santa and the Christmas Blue’s


Thesis Defence – this is war


Help me – I need your wallet and girlfriend


Message from Above


Secret Agent Siting


Lobster Bisque


Beware of Christmas Carolers


Everyone’s a Winner


The Bacon Cleanse


The Hunchback of BYU


The School of Fashion


The Knights of the Holy Grail


The Great Train Robbery


James Austen


The 12 Days of Christmas from Studio C


Backyard Crime Cover-up


16th Century Med School


Foreign Exchange


Lord of the Dance


Shakespearean Therapy


Black Friday


Superman’s Sibling – comparing


Republicans vs. Democrats


Metropolitan Boy Scouts


The Amish go green


The Absent Minded Robber – forgets why came, activities in home


Crazy Mall Kiosk – avoid at all cost


Overdue Military Letters


A chess player prodigy – be fair, don’t judge!


Longest Grocery Store Checkout Line


Political Correctness Puzzles Police


Password Protection Problems


The Restaurant of Life


Every Fight Ever


Practical Philosophy – talking criminals out of crime


Prom Dress Gone Wrong – Brooklyn and Bailey


Les Mormonables


The Hunchback of BYU


Phantom of the Akward


The OTHER Parent Trap | Parody with Studio C


High School Boyfriend Drama – ft. Studio C | Brooklyn and Bailey


This is my theme song


DANCE BATTLE: Boys Vs Girls – ft. Brooklyn and Bailey


You can do anything


Epic Photoshoot with Top Model Lucky Blue


The Great Brittish Bake Off: Tarts


Nintendo NES will save the world – nerd saves world


the piano guys behind the piano guys


man on a ledge


ghost schedules haunting


Operation Breakup


Operation Breakup 2


Bollyside story – westside story Bollywood


Your favorite teen drama


Ugly cop – good cop bad cop


Famous last words before execution


Vidangel with Matt Neese:


Does VidAngel ruin art?


Is VidAndel legal?



Music Playlists by Nate Richardson

Music Playlists by Nate Richardson

“A friend is someone who knows the song of your heart, and will sing it back to you when you forget the words.” -Author unknown





-Born Again:







-Celtic Instrumental:
-Down no more / uplifting faves:
-Down once more / depression faves:



-Sabbath Delight:

-Stay awake:


-Stay awake intensity:



-Wow Plus:


Career Choice; compiled by Nate Richardson

Career Choice; compiled by Nate Richardson

-As is the case for many subjects, the old teachings of the church have been tailored to the days of old, and the current to the present, so give preference to the present, though a study of the old does help one understand the mind of the Lord.

-“Satan may also coax us to view our work as less valuable than the work assigned to others. But every assignment from God is important, and we will find fulfillment as we “glory in that which the Lord hath commanded [us]” (Alma 29:9).” (Conf. Report OCTOBER 2017 | “I Have a Work for Thee” by Of the Seventy; see https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2017/10/i-have-a-work-for-thee?lang=eng)

-“If you are concerned about providing financially for a wife and family, may I assure you that there is no shame in a couple having to scrimp and save. It is generally during these challenging times that you will grow closer together as you learn to sacrifice and to make difficult decisions.” (President Thomas S. Monson, Liahona and Ensign, May 2011, 67; repeated in Conf. Report by Elder Neil Anderson “Children” Oct. 2011 see https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/10/children?lang=eng)

-“After returning from a full-time mission, I missed the daily purpose I had enjoyed. Clearly, I needed to keep my covenants, get an education, start a family, and earn a living. But I wondered if there was something more, or even special, that the Lord wanted me to do. After pondering for several months, I came across this verse: “If you desire, you shall be the means of doing much good in this generation” (D&C 11:8). The Spirit helped me understand that the primary purpose of divine assignments is to bless others and to do “much good.” We can approach decision points in our lives—like what to study, what to do for work, or where to live—in the context of helping others. One family moved to a new city. Instead of finding a home in an affluent neighborhood, they felt impressed to locate to an area with considerable social and economic needs. Over the years, the Lord has worked through them to support many individuals and to build up their ward and stake. A medical professional maintained a typical practice but felt guided to set aside one day each week to provide free care to individuals with no health insurance. Because of this man’s and his wife’s willingness to bless others, the Lord provided a way for them to support hundreds of patients in need while also raising their large family.” (Conf. Report OCTOBER 2017 | “I Have a Work for Thee” by Of the Seventy; see https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2017/10/i-have-a-work-for-thee?lang=eng)

A Love Greater than Terminal Illness – Ensign article about Nate and Megan Richardson 10-2017


A Love Greater than Terminal Illness

This article about my wife and I was published in the October 2017 Ensign, see https://www.lds.org/ensign/2017/10/young-adults/a-love-greater-than-terminal-illness?lang=eng

Megan and Nate on their wedding day

Megan and Nate Richardson will tell you that happiness doesn’t come from your circumstances—it comes from your faith.


A few years ago, Nate Richardson found himself in a college science class in which the teacher brought up the subject of cystic fibrosis (CF)—a chronic and progressive disease that affects the body’s ability to produce or break down substances like mucus, sweat, or digestive juices. CF can severely affect the quality of life of the patient, and currently there is no cure. The students began a discussion of whether it would be a good idea for people with that disease to have children. Since CF is genetic, there is a possibility that the parent could pass the disease along to the child if the other parent is a carrier, thus affecting the child and ensuring that the disease would remain within the human gene pool.

There were people in the class on both sides of the issue, but Nate remained silent. He was so upset by the question that he would not speak, because he knew someone with CF. In fact, she was his wife, Megan.

Cystic fibrosis demands a rigorous treatment schedule and frequent appointments with many different specialists—anywhere from three to five in a typical week. Megan has to do respiratory therapy twice a day, which involves putting on a vest that fills with air pockets that essentially pound her until the mucus in her lungs becomes easier to cough up. Because she gets sick easily—and when she gets sick, she generally has to be hospitalized—she wears a mask in most public places. She can’t do sports that involve running, and she has to be careful about not overexerting herself. She and Nate love to go hiking together, but depending on how sick she is, she might have to carry along an oxygen tank at the same time.

Megan and Nate outdoors and at home

Left: photograph courtesy of the Richardsons; right: photograph by Leslie Nilsson

Nate and Megan Richardson decided to marry knowing full well that Megan had CF. She was diagnosed at two years old and had spent most of her life dealing with the disease. What’s more, Megan and Nate had been good friends since high school. They knew as well as anyone could the struggles that lay ahead of them. “It’s probably harder than I thought it would be,” Nate says. “But,” he adds firmly, “most good things are that way.”

Megan says, “I think everyone kind of envisions the fairy-tale ending: you get married and then everything’s all perfect. And then it’s not perfect. But it’s wonderful in its own right.”

In the end, the blessings they have received match and even surpass the trials they have faithfully and joyfully endured—together.

Friends First

Megan and Nate went to the same middle school and briefly to the same high school in Payson, Utah, even though they didn’t know each other then. Then their senior year of high school, they both went to an interschool debate competition. Nate remembered Megan from his old high school, and he had a feeling that he should talk to her. He said hello, and the two of them sat down and began talking. They were close friends from that moment on.

While Nate was on a mission, Megan pursued her education at a private liberal arts college in Utah, graduating with a degree in creative writing. Her academic success came after a lot of hard work and sacrifice. When she was in the hospital, she often had to videoconference in order to “attend.” However, she made it to graduation with stellar grades in a field she is passionate about and continues to pursue.

Meanwhile, Nate returned home from his missionary service and gave Megan a call. He was surprised by her enthusiastic response, and they went on their first serious date soon afterward. When Nate brought Megan to meet his family, his brother told him, “I don’t know who else you’re dating, but she needs to be in the top three.”

Nate certainly agreed. As they continued dating, Nate began to pray about their relationship, and every time, he felt that it was “definitely, definitely a good thing.”

A Step of Faith

Those promptings helped Nate have the faith to propose. But by that point he knew Megan so well and loved her so much, it was a fairly straightforward decision for him. “I got the courage to marry into an illness because of the waves of joy that came to me when I was with Megan. Isaiah 48:18 refers to one’s righteousness being as the waves of the sea. That is how I felt with Megan; her goodness hit me like a wave.”

In the end, he was overcome with the certainty that marrying her was a good path. In fact, he says, “I felt that if I refused to marry the woman I loved on grounds of her physical health, I would have to answer to God for it. God loves all His children, even the frail ones.”

Of her own decision to marry, Megan said, “I always knew that I wanted to get married, but when I was born, the life expectancy was 19 or 20. And then, as I got older, I thought, ‘Okay, well, I’m living this long—what am I going to do with this life I have?’”

She says, “I think the hardest part for me was processing through what would happen if my husband were to get remarried after I passed away. The life expectancy is currently 35, so that would give him a long time to be alone. But would I be OK with someone else coming in?”

Then her aunt Terri passed away in a tragic accident, leaving behind her husband and children. Megan’s uncle remarried, and it was encouraging for Megan to see how well his new wife fit in. “And it just made me think, ‘Well, it can’t be that different.’”

When Nate and Megan got engaged, Nate’s family members were supportive, but they wanted to make sure he knew what he was doing. Some of them pointed out to him that they might not be able to have children. “I told them that we would try to have children, and if they came, good. If not, then we would still serve the Lord. And in whatever form they came, we would love them.”1

Nate’s family also had concerns about his finances. He had not been home from serving a mission for very long, and he didn’t have much. With Megan’s medical bills to consider, money would be a real issue for them both. However, still feeling like they were making the right decision, Nate and Megan went forward with faith and joy.

Joy Greater than the Pain

Megan and Nate in hospital

Photograph by Leslie Nilsson

Things were still far from being easy. Because the disease is progressive, Megan’s health has only gotten worse over the time she and Nate have been married. When she was a kid, Megan only had to be hospitalized every few years. Now it’s typically every four months. She sometimes has new issues come up, whether from CF or the medications used to treat CF. When it seems like they have solved one problem, another comes along.

And yet, always cheerful and laughing, Megan is quick to point out the good parts of her life. “I think I’ve grown a lot because of CF. You take the Lord for granted a lot when things are going hunky-dory. So when things in your life aren’t going hunky-dory very often, it makes you turn to the Lord more. And then when they are, you’re super grateful that they’re going great!”

Nate says, “Megan is the joy of my life. I’ve long said that there are compensatory spiritual blessings of joy which the Lord gives to Megan to balance out the difficulty of her illness. These cause me to watch in wonder at how happy and optimistic she is. But since our marriage, I’ve also been taxed by this illness, perhaps more than I thought possible. Now I’ve also come to see those compensatory blessings of the Lord come into my life. Jesus Christ is the central figure of our lives. We lean on Him every hour.”

Nate has thought a lot about the discussion in his science class, and he, at least, is convinced the world would lose something precious without people like Megan. “I should have spoken up, but I didn’t. I was too frustrated that we were even having that conversation. The world needs more people like my wife, so I hope we have a dozen children just like her, in sickness or in health. The illness doesn’t define who she is.”

Life Is Better Together, Forever

Megan and Nate smiling

Photograph by Leslie Nilsson

Overall, Megan and Nate both agree that life together has been “better all around.” Nate says, “We make wiser financial decisions as a couple; we think in the long term more as a couple.” Together they make the most of each moment they have. “Basically any time we get to be together is a good time—whether or not she’s feeling well or in the hospital. It’s always good to be around her.”

They take a lot of comfort each day from their temple covenants. Nate says, “I see Megan as those covenants describe she can be someday. Of course, I’m amazed at how much progress she’s already made. But that gives me the frame that I put her in: this is my eternal companion who will be by my side throughout all of our endeavors.”

Megan says, “The temple helps us to make our lives and the time we have more meaningful as well. When we pledge to consecrate all we have to the building up of the Lord’s kingdom, it makes me much more eager to say, ‘Yes, I will bring so-and-so dinner, even though I’m super tired today,’ because it’s something I can do, especially with His help.” Nate agrees: “We have too much work to do to have time for pity.”

She adds, “And it’s wonderful to know that families are forever, that we will continue on through the eternities. Whatever children we are able to have—whether it’s now or in the hereafter—will be able to be with us forever as well. That’s a wonderful promise, and I take courage knowing that.”

Nate says that often the secret to their courage is focusing on those eternal blessings and the joy they are being given here and now. “In some ways, I can say we have cystic fibrosis; I know I can’t understand all she goes through, but it’s become a major part of my life. I’ve long loved what Elder Neal A. Maxwell taught, that as our lives have increasing trials, our cups of joy are filled accordingly to match the level of trial, even until they are overflowing.”

Swallowed Up in the Joy of Christ

“When we reach a point of consecration, our afflictions will be swallowed up in the joy of Christ. It does not mean we won’t have afflictions, but they will be put in a perspective that permits us to deal with them. With our steady pursuit of joy and with each increasing measure of righteousness, we will experience one more drop of delight—one drop after another—until, in the words of a prophet, our hearts are ‘brim with joy’ (Alma 26:11). At last, the soul’s cup finally runs over!”

Elder Neal A. Maxwell (1926–2004) of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, “Brim with Joy” (Brigham Young University devotional, Jan. 23, 1996), 9, speeches.byu.edu.